On my Facebook I saw one of my friends had posted this:

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn’t supposed to ever let us down, probably will. You’ll have your heart broken and you’ll break others’ hearts. You’ll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you’ll cry because time is flying by. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you’ve never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. you just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone’s hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts. Don’t be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.

It got me thinking about whether it is all about happiness. We do spend our time seeking happiness, but what would life be like if we were always happy?

Scientists once did an experiment on hamsters, they gave them everything they could ever want and ever need, and they died of boredom. They needed a challenge to give them a purpose and to keep them going and to keep them happy. As do we.

When you get your heart broken, we cry, we heart and we learn. We learn to avoid that person, to not make that same mistake again. We get let down to learn to be more self-reliant, as, if we always relied on each other, we’d never get anything done and never branch out…we would have died out pretty quickly if we did. We fight and love to learn, fighting makes us stronger and reveals our faults on which we can work. Love brings happiness, but relationships are hard, and it’s the downs when we wander if we really were made for our partner, that once worked through, make the relationship stronger (this applies to all relationships whether romantic, family or friend).

We will never get that time we could have been happy back, but I would not trade any of my down time for happiness. If I did I would forever be with the wrong guy, having other people make my decisions for me and blissfully waiting for life to happen rather than going  out there, giving it a kick up the backside and getting it moving.

We can persue happiness, and it gives us something to do.

But never underestimate the relevance, significance or power of sadness, depression and tears.

Enjoy and relish happiness, but learn from pain as well.

We need the downs for so many reasons, so treasure them as much as you treasure happiness and you can’t go wrong.