You will probably have seen this slogan or one’s of a similar nature all over advertisements lately, every year the same old phrases, the same old meanings. Maybe you look at it and think it will be a new you this year, throw off the old and bring in the new, a chance to begin again, maybe you look at it and think ‘I wish, I’m far too busy to change’, or maybe your blessed with being happy just as you are, everything is fine and your quite happy to keep going as you do. Well good on you, but for the most part, we tend to expect a lot from a new year. The numbers on the calendar change and we expect everything to change with it, we hope that all the wrongs will be righted and that everything will change. But by February, we’ve already realized nothing has really changed that much, we’re in the same places doing the same things. If things have changed, we’re happy. if they don’t we tend to label the year as another unremarkable twelve months and begin planning for the next year.

As I said in an earlier post, time is a man-made way of ordering things, we need time to work or we’d never get anywhere, time is just a huge cycle, there are no years in it, it’s just a long ribbon of eternity, so because the symbols change, doesn’t mean anything else does.

Change comes from within, not from outside.

Yes change can be triggered by an outside source, loosing our job, getting a promotion, financial change. But mostly it comes from inside. If you have that special someone in your life, when you met, who spoke to whom first? One of you broke the ice, one of you took that first tentative step towards change, you might  not have had a relationship of any kind on your mind at the time, but one of you made the change.

If you want change this year, you need to take control, look at yourself and your life. Sit down and really think about what you are happy with, and what you aren’t. Perhaps you could make a list of things you want to have done or be doing by the end of the year, and aim to complete them, they can be anything from ‘Get employed’ to a complete change of country, job and lifestyle. If it is a huge change, maybe set targets, maybe you won’t get it all completed this year if you (for example) want to leave your job in a bank in Scotland to teach English as a foreign language in Barbados, maybe set the targets over a few years, so this year you will save up, plan it all, and next year you will make the change.

A new year, a new you isn’t just a phrase for gym advertisements, it can be a personal mantra. So maybe this year you really will see a new you.

“Change is the essence of life. Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become.” ~Unknown~

“If you don’t create change, change will create you” ~Unknown~