We all feel bored, we all want to be doing something else or be somewhere else at some point. But there’s always going to be an unavoidable situation where we’re going to be bored.

To earn some money I recently worked at my father’s work where he designs roof tiles, after assuring me his office wasn’t that boring and that they often shared childish jokes and pulled pranks on each other to pass the time in between working, it was the most boring four days of my life (it would have been five, but I looked so bored they gave me the Friday off). But apart from the almost solid silence, the thing that most shocked me, was the fact that everyone there didn’t enjoy their job and didn’t want to be there. Every single one of them hated it, and I couldn’t begin to get my head around the fact that they all hated it, but they all stayed. Of course it is easy for me to sit here and say that they should find a job they enjoy rather than spending eight hours a day bored out their minds considering I don’t know their personal situations and the current economic climate, this is not a matter for me to really try to fix as a whole manner of things may be preventing them from branching out that I couldn’t even begin to think of.

So, instead of writing a whole blog on dropping everything you know and taking a risk, I am trying to find a way of amusing yourself, even if you do not love the place you’re in.

So you’ve just got a promotion, but you don’t like your workplace, perhaps instead of focusing on the fact you are just higher up and more committed to something you do not feel that strongly for, wander about who previously sat in your chair, used you equipment; what were they like? What motivated them? What life did they lead? Even if you did know the person that previously occupied this space, how about wandering about the things you didn’t know? Or the person that came before them? Obviously don’t let this distract you from your actual work, but this can while away many long moments. Who knows what exciting characters can come from your imagination? If you do not find imagining up people comes easily or is comfortable, try thinking like Sherlock Holmes. He can deduce your life from what you are wearing, try doing this yourself on other people (obviously don’t be repeatedly caught staring at co-workers), look at what their wearing, are their shoes polished, or are they a bit worn? Is their hair slicked into place or all over the place. Just from this you can begin to tell what kind of day people are having, raise awareness of other people’s feelings and fight boredom. This can work anywhere, even in public. Next time your on the bus, look at you fellow passengers and try to deduce the facts about their lives from their clothes and features, frown lines, bags under the eyes or a bright spark in their eyes.

To really fight the boredom, the best thing would be to strike up strong friendships with those around you, who knows what exciting people hide behind those suits or uniforms? A passing joke as you walk to the photocopier can really make your day and theirs a lot more bearable. If you do a job where you don’t often encounter other people, perhaps speculate about the people who have passed through your place of work, or about the lorry man who just drove past the window.

The basic point of this is to help you to find a way of countering the thick weight of boredom, boredom is not something to be endured, it should be fought as we all deserve to be engaged and challenged, as Sally Brampton says in her bookShoot the Damn Dog;

Imagine you are driving a car, and that you are heading straight for a brick wall. If you stay in habitual or rigid thinking (the sort of thinking that says, ‘this is the way I always do things’) and do not change the direction in which you are headed, you will drive your car into the brick wall.

Now imagine that you are driving that same car towards that same brick wall. Now use positive thinking to imagine that the wall is, in fact, a tunnel. It is not, of course, you simply hope or wish that it is a tunnel but it is the sane old, intractable brick. You still drive your car into the wall.

You are in the same car, facing the same wall except that you use creative or constructive thinking. You see the wall as an obstacle set dead ahead and see that it is solid and immovable. You use your thinking to change direction and drive you car around it.

At first I did not understand this, but after a while it began to make sense. If we can see a problem coming (in this instance it represented depression, but for this purpose can be boredom or any other thing that provides a rigid obstacle) but do not try to change, we will encounter it. If we see it coming and just imagine a way round it, but do not make a way, we still hit it. But if we see it, and act against it to prevent it, we can actively avoid it.

Boredom is a state of mind, it can be changed as we wish, it’s not just a factor of life, it is avoidable and can be changed.

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